Excerpt from Keeper
What happens when the abyss of amnesia is opening constantly at your feet, as it appears to with Nancy? Some days it seems as if her brain is compensating by creating its own answers, its own improvisations: fictions that keep her afloat. It isn't that nothing is going on in there, in her brain. She improvises her reality from minute to minute.
This is on my mind today, a stormy April morning and - as it happens - the first anniversary of our agreeing to buy the house, because I dreamed last night that Nancy was a sales representative, working in a post-apocalyptic landscape. There was a war-blackened, ruined landscape of burnt-out skyscrapers: it didn't much resemble Edinburgh. The company she worked for had gone, as had all the other personnel, leaving her alone in the city, but she kept going, working out of her car and flying by the seat of her pants. My dreams lately have tended to the metaphorical.
It isn't possible to have identity without a history. Pascal was wrong when he wrote "If somebody loves me for my judgement, or my memory, do they love me? Me myself? No, because I could lose those qualities without losing my self". The more I think about this statement of his the odder it seems. It's normal for selves continually to be evolving, and in that sense Nancy's improvisations are reassuring. Something is happening. It hasn't all come to a halt. I am writing this in bed, early in the morning, the rest of the family asleep. Since waking I have thought apparently randomly, fleetingly, about a whole array of insignificant things, and in making decisions, reflecting on them, I have become a new person, albeit in a trivial sense. As Heraclitus had it, you never step into the same river twice.
What rivers does Nancy put a toe in? Which river is she wading in, thigh deep, in those periods of sitting in her chair, hand-rubbing and looking deep in thought? It's clear from her eye movements, her mouthings, her shifting expressions, that something is happening. Are they words, pictures? Is she thinking in the first person, or does her voice come at her like dictation? Where is her mind taking her right now, lying awake in her single bed, the light vivid at the edges of the curtains, Morris snoring lightly and curled in a foetal circle? She's lying facing the door, facing her upright wood-framed chair, the clothes laid on it from yesterday; she can see Morris and the entrance to the ensuite. What occurs to her about these things that she's looking at? What content and form do the improvisations take? The little output that does reach us - this is my house; you work for me; I was born here; my father is in the garden; I must get to the office; the friends are on their way - doesn't hint at much of a coherent alter-ego. She doesn't claim to be anyone else, other than, on occasion, her younger self, unmarried, unburdened, childless, her whole life ahead of her (and don't we all imagine our essential selves, our immortal souls, to be fixed at around the age of 28?). Nancy's fictions are more to do with her brain coming up with scenarios that explain her life now. For half hour periods, she is the owner of a big house in Edinburgh, with staff (the rest of us), and/or is somebody who has lived here her whole life, confusing it with the estate where she was born, and/or must get the house ready for a party because the friends are on their way. They're called the friends, collectively. She no longer has a handle on any particular name or face, is just hopeful that they're out there and on their way to rescue her.
Waking this morning at 6am and listening to the rain on the windows, I tried to fake being a person without a memory but it was impossible. Everything we are is the sum of our history, augmented by every new experience, each stone added to the cairn, and modified by our thoughts about that stone, and about the shape the cairn is taking. Our selves are fed by our narrative, the story of our past and our imagined futures. Ask me who I am and I turn immediately to memory. It isn't possible to answer the question "Could you tell me something about yourself?" without recourse to biography. Even aside from replies that start "Well I was born in X..." (which are the most obviously memory-driven), other kinds of responses, ones that try to avoid the straightforwardly biographical - "I am intelligent, curious, anxious and usually hungry" - also rely on memory entirely. You only know yourself because of your memory. If you ask Nancy who she is she can quote her name, but that's all that's likely to arise from her unprompted. If you ask her: "What are you like?" or "What kind of person are you?" she isn't able to answer. She'll appear to think about it. The eyes dart from side to side. But then she says "I don't know really" or "I couldn't exactly say", or laughs defensively. At a fundamental level there has been a disconnection and Nancy's self is locked in a world with no windows.
Who I am is what I've done and experienced, and what I think about it all, how other people make me think about it all, how the books I've read and films I've seen have made me think about it all, creating a unique and labyrinthine web of connections that is My Self. I have a library of Self at hand. I can wander the halls of this library and choose whatever book I like, and read from it and enjoy the indulgence of having new ideas about the past. I find in the last few years that I am dipping into it more and more and finding surprising new connections between things. This, I suppose, is what people mean when they talk about personal growth, and one of the few compensations of being post-40.
The only (inadequate) way I can relate to what Nancy experiences when she wakes is in recalling moments when I haven't been sure where I am. Waking from an anaesthetic. Or waking up in a strange hotel room, with the wrong furniture, the wrong shadows, the wrong smell, the door in the wrong place, and that first mildly alarming recognition that this Isn't Home. But the alarm is barely formulated before it's redundant. The brain steps in hurriedly with information, clears its throat, the efficient personal secretary. Ahem. I think you'll find you're in the Travelodge. Half term trip . Ah. Yes. An instantaneous connection is made between this room - the Travelodge, the half term, the life I have - and the library of the past, which is always with me, wherever I am. The Travelodge becomes another pebble on the cairn.
This morning when I opened my eyes, the room I put together was there, the anticipated objects; Chris sleeping, everything familiar and as it should be. I'm looking around it now. It's cold and I'm wearing a sweater in bed. The clean laundry is piled on the chair awaiting sorting. My new handbag is hanging from the wardrobe door. I recognise the handbag. I remember buying it. I don't actually bother to have the memory, in full, of the shopping and acquisition; it's more like, in computer terms, a shortcut on the desktop that I'm confident leads to the memory. I don't open the file, though I did, the morning after buying it, reviewing the choice that was available and reassuring myself that I didn't want the red one with the too-short handles that I was drawn to initially. That's all I needed to do. Now when I see the handbag all I see - and I don't even see it, I don't need to - is the shortcut that leads to the shortcut. Recognition. It fits into my narrative and that's all that's needed. If I wake and see something that doesn't fit - a book I don't recognise that's appeared on the bedside table, for instance - then my first instinct is to try and make it fit. I do a brief file search. Oh yes: it was purchased in a rush in the city; I see the bookshop, I see the face of the assistant. It was bought for a birthday. Last night Chris was emptying the bags. He must have put it there when he came to bed, thinking it was for me. It's good to see the bookshop and the face of the assistant again. It reassures me that my narrative is intact.
Nancy says to me almost every morning: "I'm sorry, I don't know where I am", and in the circumstances this seems a remarkably gracious response. It's her face that betrays her fear. The reason I'm not afraid on waking is that, stirring and stretching in bed, everything I see around me is explicable, it was put. Personal history isn't just about the CV, executive and social. We have history with everything surrounding us. The house is one we bought having sold the previous one. Our possessions carry with them their own stories, of how they were acquired and where, and their 'thing biographies', things that have happened since we got them. A chair used for reading is a highly evocative thing, or a sofa owned since the children were small. Look hard at that sofa and you'll see them, little pink and white people, fresh out of the bath in clean jammies, waiting for a story. An old pair of jeans carries history with it; that's why it's hard to part with. This isn't just sentimentality, but context. Imagine waking in the morning and finding everything around you is new: the building, the garden outside the windows, the people who talk to you as if you know each other, the shirt the stranger hands you, the chair they take you to, the man sitting in the other chair. If your brain were still intact enough to want to make a history out of things, it might get around the novelty of all this by explaining your real life as Somewhere Else. You are somewhere new and your life is Somewhere Else. All you're going to want to do is get back there.
I'm getting up now to make breakfast. The house layout is known to me. Rooms are subsequent in the expected way. The kitchen cupboards hold the things I put in them. I know where the frying pan is, the olive oil, the glazed bowl and the whisk. There are leftover potatoes, garlic, some tomatoes for the omelette. As I rise and dress and go down to make the breakfast, I'm running through visual anticipations of how it will be, barely consciously if at all; each next step conjured and satisfied in turn. In a way I'm remembering things before they happen. Six months ago, Nancy may have come into the kitchen, hearing me up and about, and once I'd reassured her by appearing to know her and offering her tea, she'd ask if she could help. I miss helpful Nancy, wanting to do things. Although, asked to put eggs in a bowl, she couldn't even then have grasped what was being asked. She might, with encouragement, have put the eggs in the bowl entire, shell on, and stared at them as if expecting them to act. She remembered "egg" then, though "bowl" was trickier. Always, with the progress of Alzheimer's, life is bound up with lists and ranks of objects, and tiny gradations of loss.